“Mumma I don’t want to go to the school.”
“My ma’am slapped and scolded me very badly!”
“I don’t like to stay at home.”
“My child doesn’t listen to me unless I give him a tight one!”
These narratives can come from the traumatic experiences of a child with corporal punishment. Even the slightest act of physical abuse is capable of having a highly destructive impact on a child.
What is corporal punishment?
Teachers, caregivers, and family members often don’t realize what impact their acts can possibly have on children. Any form of corporal punishment is capable of altering a child’s temperament and even her personality as an adult.
Children experience this form of maltreatment in schools as well as within their own houses. Their own teachers. family members and the ones they live with are responsible for the trauma they experience.
How does it affect children?
The children who have faced corporal punishment (any punishment which is physically harmful in nature, such as hitting with hands or sticks) go through immense humiliation and trauma. Shame, guilt, helplessness and other such emotions accompany an incidence of such punishment. These experiences can either make the child extremely rebellious or submissive.
- The path of rebellion – The path of rebellion refers to an exhibition of anger, hostility, sadism, and presence of similar characteristics in the child’s personality. The child might start bullying other children. He might tease and hit them. Furthermore, symptoms of adjustment disorders might emerge. Such children also have traits like grandiose feelings, stubbornness and low self-esteem which they try and fuel up by exercising their power on others.
- The path of submission– The path of submission is mainly marked by submissive traits like the inability to speak for oneself, inferiority feelings, low self-esteem, stage fear, fear of judgments Such children are also prone to social anxiety disorders and other anxiety disorders.
Many children exposed to severe corporal punishment end up in getting into suicidal and non-suicidal self-harm. These are the results of extreme phases of helplessness experienced by the child during the aforementioned trauma.
Corporal punishment is a tool we often use in order make our children behave in a desirable way. All of us are aware of better ways of getting the same done, but those ways might consume more efforts and time. Nevertheless, think about the consequences mentioned here. Shouldn’t we save our children and students from such immense pain and change the methods we use to discipline them?
Meanwhile, if you know a child who is struggling with corporal punishment, provide them with the help they need by connecting them with a Psychologist from Mind Solace.